A void

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Mater is in hospital, probably for several weeks. I keep getting pangs ... as my concious mind catches my subconcious deciding to just pop into the other room to see how she's doing... She really wanted not to have to go in. But ... she's already seen two specialists this afternoon, and there's every chance that she'll come out far stronger. Still ... guilt, guilt!

And then ... Mater's ordered me to go on holiday without her. I'm torn in two - I know it would be wonderful, and do me a power of good, and hence prepare me to help Mater better when she comes out of hospital again. But the guilt of not being able to visit her for several days (even if I come home after only the long weekend)... I'm pretty sure that the only person who would hold it against me for going is me ... and my brother, without prompting, has already re-arranged his plans for the weekend so that he can be up here ... but ... ARGH!

Comments

[carandol.livejournal.com]

Oh, go on, have a holiday! If the hospital's anything like Lancaster Infirmary, there'll be a phone by every bed, and you can ring Mater up and tell her what you've been up to, which will probably be more fun than her hearing you tell her about boring ordinary things...

[crazysoph.livejournal.com]

She'll get the holiday vicariously, so I second the motion... er, yeah, that's already ben dun.

Crazy(and hoping for Mater's speedy recovery)Soph

[intelligentrix.livejournal.com]

Yep. What they said. In spades.

[swisstone.livejournal.com]

GO! If for no other reason than your mum has told you to go.

[vgnwtch.livejournal.com]

:::APPLAUSE:::

[artela.livejournal.com]

Take the break!
You need and deserve it. Even your Mum obviously thinks so!

[akirlu.livejournal.com]

Well, the break will only do you good if you can actually relax if you take it. So I would make my decision based on whether or not you expect to be able to let go of the guilt and get some benefit from taking the break. If you can, go for it.

[the-gardener.livejournal.com]

Go on holiday. More specifically, go on holiday somewhere where your days will be filled with activities that will block thoughts of your mother's predicament, so that you do indeed get a few days rest and recuperation.

And take plenty of reading matter!

[hobbitblue.livejournal.com]

Go. Take lots of photos, phone her up and tell her all about it, bring her back a present, let her enjoy it vicariously through you, though if you really feel guilty come back a few days sooner than planned. You could do with the rest and its not so far away you couldn't come scurrying back if needed - hospitals are icky places but she'll be well looked after and get plenty of rest so hopefully both of you can be fresh and relaxed when she comes back out *huggles*

[sammywol.livejournal.com]

Wow you are getting seriously themed advice here. I am with hobbitblue on the vicarious holiday experience idea. (Plus you are stuck with guilt either way as Mater will almost certainly feel guilty if you do not go and that will, in turn, make you feel guilty all over again.)


Again I am sorry that you are both having to go through this. I'll be away from my LJ for a few days myself from today but even though I wil go quiet I will be thinking of you.

[micheinnz.livejournal.com]

So go, already. *hugs*